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From Confused To Clear
You'll always see my hands open. I care. I receive. I wait.
Dating addicts was my thing, except I had NO idea that was a thing. See I thought I had a choice, but I didn't. Only once I started healing did I see how sick I was...but even at 26 and super successful (2 Degrees, Straight As, High Paying Job, Owning my Own Home), sickness is silent until surfaced.
Through the grace of G-d, I realized...my sickness was not able to be seen, but very much existed indeed.
See, I was an addict, a fiend.
I craved everything and everyone to be proud of me, but me.
I needed to be noticed not seen.
and I chased, so often, men who couldn't see.
Focused on themselves, they couldn't see
So I was forced to wake up and study, study study
"What caused two people to choose each other & be happy?"
When most people chose, and ended up divorced & sappy
Two degrees, hundreds of thousands of dollars later, hundreds of hours in the "rooms" I learned. Because I became obsessed, I became an expert.
I rewired my brain, body, cells, beliefs....
I learned what love is and how to love my self, brain, body
and became a new me.
I am HAPPILY MARRIED to a sweet,
stable, sober man with my epic kids, Moon & Evie.
and that is how you change, nay transform, sickness into healthy.
DIVORCED WOMEN
"I feel the empathy in your voice..."
" I really really needed to hear this message. It is just what the doctor ordered. I really feel the empathy in your voice from your own personal experience. You're so So right. I have to safeguard myself from allowing the emotional sickness to spread while at the same time..... To choose life. I feel like I can date now in a whole new way, and one that is about my happiness and not making others happy..."
- Sally Verde
"Dear Chaya, Thank YOU!"
"Dear Chaya,
Amazing. Thank You for the explanation🌷🥰Only after that incident, I woke up in a way & started protecting myself, not only from that person, but with everyone around me.
Something had shifted in the way I think/speak/share & also I started prioritizing ME. Update: I am not happily married and the wedding was beyond peaceful---because of you Chaya! No words can say thank you enough."
- Shira Halpren
"It's sobering to see how much I used to attract men like my dad..."
"It's really sobering how much I used to be attracted to men like my dad, with all the negative aspects that came with that...avoidance, an emphasis on physical appearance vs. inner beauty, and how growing up with that model affected the people I was attracted to. But now I'm so much more aware and cognizant of those things that I can say, "I recognize this and I DON'T want it" 😊 Thank you Chaya, you really gave me skills and tools I use now not only for dating, but for a much better life."
- Bailey New